Get out of “fake it till you make it” mode and become a more intentional, confident leader at home 

Learn how to become more confident as you raise your family using my Intentional Family Leadership Model so everyone in your family can thrive in today’s world.

“How can I equip my kids to thrive when I’m just trying to get through each day?”

If you’ve ever felt like raising a family is a high-stakes game where the rules keep changing, you may have found yourself in full-on reaction mode—dealing with things as they come up. 

Even if you have some ideas about the kind of parent you want to be or the values you want to instill in your kids, it’s tough to know how to do it and when to start, especially in a world that’s changing so fast.

In fact, you may find yourself desperately searching for a pause button to buy a little more time before your kids have to deal with all the big scary challenges out there in the real world.

But it’s not realistic to keep your kids in a bubble forever, and sheltering them may do more harm than good. Because sooner or later? They’re gonna face the tough stuff…it’s just a matter of when.

One thing is clear—the world is a much different place than it was when we were growing up, and the way you were raised is probably at total odds with the world we live in today.

So when you catch yourself saying the exact same things your parents said to you, it’s a sign you’re rehashing the only patterns you know.

And, if you want future generations to be better, stronger, and ready to handle the real world, you’ve got to find a new way to equip them for success without abandoning your roots completely.

If only there was a blueprint for this kind of stuff…

It’s overwhelming, and you’re pretty sure there’s got to be a better way. Flying by the seat of your pants isn’t exactly working, but what else can you do when life is always so crazy?

There’s got to be a way to turn “What the heck am I doing?” into “We’ve totally got this.”

It’s just that you can’t figure out what the heck it is. 

You are NOT alone.

Raising a family is stressful. 66% of parents feel burned out. Keeping all of the balls in the air is exhausting—managing your career, keeping track of kids’ schedules, making sure everyone is fed. It can be tough to do anything other than take things as they come.

However, it’s exactly because of that burnout that you and your family deserve a more intentional approach to life. 

It’s all about creating an intentional way to prioritize what matters most…and it starts at home.

Reason #1: You’re overwhelmed by information overload.

With Google at our fingertips, it’s easy to believe that more information equals better decisions. And while it’s true to a point, sifting through it all makes it tough to trust your instincts, leaving you right back at square one—wondering how the heck to handle all of this. 

However, when you learn how to use your values to make the right decisions and have open conversations, you can take an intentional, focused approach as a leader at home.

Reason #2: You’re trying to balance traditional values with modern expectations.

It’s easy to default to the values we were raised with—it feels safe going with what you know. But clinging to outdated methods isn’t going to help anyone develop the skills to thrive.

Instead, by acknowledging that the world is changing, you can leave disruptive mindsets or toxic cycles in the rearview mirror even while staying true to your values and traditions and using them to equip the next generation for success.

Reason #3: You’re comparing yourself and your family to everyone else.

Social media distorts reality and can lead to feeling like you’re not enough. And while it’s only natural to compare yourself to others and breeze through life like they appear to, remember those snapshots rarely tell the whole story. By choosing to embrace your journey, your goals, and your lived experience, you can let go of comparisons and develop a more grounded perspective and approach towards leadership at home.  

Reason #4: You’re not acknowledging the barriers present or doing the work to shift them.

The world is a better place when everyone has the opportunity to succeed. Unfortunately, some people start with the deck stacked against them. But glossing over barriers like generational curses, sexism, racism, homophobia, and socioeconomic differences doesn’t mean they don’t exist. 

However, by talking about these barriers, you can take the first steps in doing the work to shift them and ensure the next generation is better and more equitable. 

The Good News Is…

Your dream of creating an intentional family culture that fosters confidence, leadership, and courageous conversation is possible. 

Over the last five years, we’ve identified five areas where everyone needs to develop skills, knowledge, and abilities—personal, professional, financial, home, and relational. We’ve created a blueprint based on these pillars to help you create intentional family leadership so you can:

• Be your authentic self in the home without worrying if you’re enough.
• Dismantle destructive mindsets, patterns, and generational curses.
• Proactively shift with our changing times and address societal issues.
• Raise resilient, inclusive, and productive individuals. 
• Better equip yourself and your family to handle crises and challenges.
• Use your lived experience and spiritual journey for personal growth.
• Feel courageous, like there’s no issue your family cannot overcome.

And, I’d love to show you how to use this blueprint for your family!

Hi! I am Dr. Shelley Jones Holt

Your Courageous Leadership Coach

I’m on a mission to empower people to develop the skills, knowledge, and abilities to lead themselves and their families. 

As a parent of 8 children, I know firsthand that leading your family is not for the faint of heart— especially in today’s world which is unlike any other time in history, filled with opportunities and challenges no one has ever seen before. 

It’s not just about raising our kids—it’s about teaching them to be leaders and preparing them to thrive despite everything society, friends, and the world throws at them. 

It’s the greatest job I’ve had—and also the toughest, which is saying something considering I’ve made a career out of breaking barriers and creating equity in schools, communities, and workplaces, as the…

….youngest middle school principal in California history…

…first African American central office administrator in Seaford, Delaware…

…first African American Superintendent of the 14th largest district in the State of Michigan. 

The words “that’s impossible” have never applied to me—and it felt like I was truly making a difference.

Then, in 2019, my perspective on all of it changed.

My son graduated at the top of his high school class and got a full academic scholarship to Tuskegee University. But when my husband and I took him to settle in as a freshman, we realized that while we had done a great job of preparing him to get to college, we hadn’t focused enough on how to help him navigate life’s biggest challenges—and he still had a lot to learn about life.

And despite all my experience as an educational leader, I began to question my approach to parenting and preparing my children for the real world. It would have been so much easier on him—and my husband and I—if we had only started earlier and been more intentional.

We didn’t want our son—or any young adult—to have to navigate the complexities of life without a solid foundation. So, we developed a plan focusing on everyday leadership, personal growth, situational awareness, financial intelligence, and relationship management. And none of us have looked back.

It didn’t stop with helping my son. I quickly realized I had an opportunity to help youths and their families learn and thrive together, much earlier than we started. My husband and son were both on board and together, we created a pilot program to help families develop an intentional family structure. 

However, not everyone was operating with the same lived experience or knowledge, which meant we had to level the playing field by creating a way for families to learn together, identify what’s most important, and talk openly.

Over the last five years, we’ve identified five areas where everyone needs to develop skills, knowledge, and abilities—personal, professional, financial, home, and relational—to be courageous, authentic, and inclusive leaders who are able to dismantle destructive mindsets and thrive.

Drawing on a lifetime of helping communities, schools, and families create pathways for success, I’ve created a program that applies leadership models to family systems. This intentional family leadership model provides the structure, guidance, framework, and action plan to create an intentional family organization—it’s designed to help every family create intentional leaders who have the skills to thrive at home and in the real world.

Including your family. 

Your journey towards intentional family leadership starts now.

Step 1: Getting Started 

Understanding where you are and where you want to go is essential for making a plan. Step 1 is all about getting a roadmap of the course, what to expect, and understanding your current realities and goals. You’ll walk away with clearly defined intentions for the course, a clear outline of your why, and the changes you want to see in your life and your family. 

You’ll use the following tools and exercises:

• Intention Setting Reflection and Journaling Exercise to help you think through why you’re taking this course, the obstacles you might face, and how you feel about your path forward.

Step 2: Family Leadership Foundations

Building a strong foundation as a family starts with understanding the five pillars of the Intentional Family Leadership Model, or the five areas where everyone needs to develop skills, knowledge, and abilities—personal, professional, financial, home, and relational. Step 2 is all about exploring each pillar and assessing where you are, where you want to be, and what you need to do to reach your goal state. As you work through this step, you’ll dive deep into what matters most to you and walk away with an action plan for building an effective structure for your family and a set of guiding principles to help you along the way.

You’ll use the following tools and exercises:

• Identifying Guiding Principles + Core Values Exercise so you can identify what matters most to you and how that will apply to your family structure.
• Structure & Balance Worksheet where you’ll use a wheel of the 5 pillars to assess where you are, where you want to be, and what you need to do to get there.

• Getting to Know Myself Reflection Exercise to help you identify your guiding principles and core values.

Step 3: Ages and Stages 

There’s no best way to structure a family—every family looks different, and you can create a family leadership unit based on your core values. Step 3 is all about understanding that building a family requires intentionality and open communication for success. As you work through this step, you’ll explore the different ages and stages and how to intentionally build the five pillars and reinforce your guiding principles at each stage. You’ll walk away knowing how to make intentional choices in whatever stage of life you’re in. You’ll also have an outline for how you want to raise your family as a family leadership team in every stage from infancy through the time your children start building their own families.

You’ll use the following tools and exercises:

• Ages & Stages Planning Worksheet to help you define your guiding principles at each stage and pillar and define age-appropriate expectations for your children.

Step 4: Courageous Family

Creating a courageous family starts with becoming a culturally proficient family leader who is intentional about how you interact with others and how they interact with you. Step 4 is all about understanding and acknowledging the systemic barriers in place in the world so you can have courageous conversations and actively work towards dismantling destructive mindsets. As you work through this step, you’ll explore what you need to consider for each family member based on who they are. You’ll walk away with increasing self-awareness of how you show up in the world and a plan to ensure your family understands your culture and traditions in the context of today’s world.

You’ll use the following tools and exercises:

• Personal Inventory Exercise to help you increase understanding of your habits and ways of being, while also thinking through what to consider for each person in your family.

• Family Heritage Worksheet to help you explore the cultural traditions, values, and underlying messages you want to pass on to your family.

Step 5: Future Plan for Your Family 

It’s important to realize that your ideal plan for your children may not reflect their goals. Step 5 is all about understanding the legacy you want to create within your family. As you work through this step, you’ll explore how to become a lifelong learner and how your aspirations and goals for each person might be different from their own. You’ll walk away with goal-setting documents for each member of your family.

You’ll use the following tools and exercises:

• Goal Setting Action Planner to help each person define their aspirations, goals, and what they want to learn or achieve.

Step 6: The End and The Beginning

Once you have a plan and a set of goals it’s important you know how to put it all together to build an intentional and connected family. Step 6 is all about understanding how to make the time for things that are important to you and getting answers to any questions you still have. As you work through this step, you’ll explore the different ways to find time and to reconnect with your family. You’ll walk away with a sense of accomplishment and confidence in your plan to lead your family intentionally.

You’ll use the following tools and exercises:

• Post-Course Self-Assessment to help you compare where you started with where you are now.
• Family Leadership Canvas to bring all that you’ve learned throughout this program together and help you finalize your plan.

“I love that they want to support us. We are all in this together.”

Daniel Riggins 

“Working with Dr. Shelley has confirmed my belief that this work is essential. I’ve learned that I need to be honest with myself about the time this type of self-improvement work takes. ”

Gwen Anderson

“I have a lot of work to do. But I am fired up about it because of everything I’ve learned.”

Robert Townsend

“Working with Dr. Shelley Holt was and is a very inspiring experience. Her leadership approach and relentless push towards personal excellence motivated me to be the best and not be complacent with traditional accolades. She continues to raise the bar of becoming a change agent.”

Reginald Harris

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You can create an intentional family culture that fosters confidence, leadership, and courageous conversations

Parenting is hard…and there’s so much flying at you that you have to handle that it’s easy to default to taking things as they come.

Here’s the thing. Our kids are under more pressure than at any other time, and helping them thrive means taking an intentional approach at home while leaving harmful or destructive mindsets and patterns where they belong—in the past.

That doesn’t mean you have to leave your roots and traditions behind—it’s just about creating a plan to help your children learn, earn, and thrive in a way that allows you to stay true to your values.

And, it doesn’t matter how old your kids are, it’s never too early or too late to become a more courageous family leader.

There’s no risk—and the payoff is huge—greater confidence in your ability to help the next generation be better.

So please, join us. I truly hope to see you inside.
It doesn’t matter what age or stage your family is in—it’s not too late to start building intentional structures to prepare your children to learn, earn, and thrive while staying true to your roots.

Q: When will I have access to the material?

A: You’ll have immediate access to the Getting Started Module and Module 1, as soon as you join the program. The remaining modules will be released each week. You will have forever access to the course materials. 

Q: How much time should we set aside per week?

A: Every individual will go at their own pace, but you should expect to set aside 2-3 hours per week to complete each module.

Q: How do I ask questions or get feedback during the program?

A: Simply send an email to [email protected] and we’re happy to help. 

Q: How long is the program?

A: The program is 6 modules

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